[ Monday, October 17, 2005 ]

 
   

Mood: Dizzy
Music: Michelle Branch- All You Wanted

**Ranty part taken from an e-mail I just wrote to Alan, with a few modifications**
Ok...so I toddled out of Biology today, checked my mail to see if the f***ing campus mail delivered Alan's letter (alas, to no avail =( ), tripped up the stairs, went to my room, flipped on Unsolved Mysteries, and sat down to check my e-mail. I mean, not that I ever get e-mail, but I like to check obsessively anyway in case my beloved authors on ff.net have updated.

But I digress.

Upon going to my lovely MSN.com home page (not that I have to have MSN as my home page...since I'm not using MSN as my SP here at college...it's just a reminder of home that I can't bring myself to change.), I noticed that one of their front page articles on marriages. I was like, "Ooo, marriages!! <333333"

http://lifestyle.msn.com/Relationships/CouplesandMarriage/ArticleIV2.aspx?cp-documentid=43065>1=7116

Upon reading it, I got mad.

(I'm going to assume you've all read it...if you haven't, well...here's a rundown: The author (a guy) basically lists 5 negative points in a marriage that aren't worth spazzing out about.

1.) Repeating the Same Stupid Argument

I can't stand that......if the argument doesn't get resolved (which arguments should be!!!), then it may as well be dropped!! An example from the article was how the wife never kept her things where she would find them, and the husband would get frustrated when she couldn't find them and would ask him where they were. Errr, ok? Being scatterbrained is a quality...and I'm sorry to say that the husband will probably ALWAYS have to deal with that...and the wife can't assume that her husband is the keeper of her things. >< They might as well not nag each other about it, then...cos it's an argument that won't be resolved. It's one thing to say something initially.....but to keep going on and on and on about it....why?? It just causes unnecessary stress. (Keep in mind, I'm talking about little things...the stupid things. Not the big things.)

2.) Periods of Noncommunication

Communication, communication, communication!!!!!!! Communication is the key to everything. Being open with someone not only shows that you trust and care for them, but it also keeps you from bottling things up. What pissed me off about this was the example the author used with his wife:

She: I can't believe you're going to let me go on and on like this.

Me (baffled): Like what?

She (with a glare that cements my position as World's Most Insensitive Man): Why don't you hold me?

Me (baffled): Do you want me to hold you?

She: (glares silently)

*deep breath* AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111111111 *has a brain tumor now from the mere exposure to that quote* WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY?!!!! Why did the wife assume that her husband was a psychic?!!! NOBODY's a psychic!!!!!!!!!!! Umm, ok, let's perhaps try this sometime?:

"You know...I really like to be held....do you think maybe you could hold me for a bit?"

Let's see....there's no accusatory "You" statements in there....just a non-accusatory question. And hey, the husband discovers "Oh, she likes to be held" meaning he can possibly put this into use in the future. Then, would it be a crime for the wife to ask what her husband likes?? Merf.

3.) Pursuing Different Hobbies

People are different!!! It's a great thing to have different likes and dislikes....you could introduce your new favorite hobby to your spouse, and if they like it, voila!! Something new to integrate into the relationship!! Woo, fun!!

4.) Turning Down Sex

It happens!! Not all people are obsessed with it! Why don't husbands and wives seem to get that they won't catch their spouse "in the mood" sometimes?? *sigh!*

5.) Looking at Other Women

It's natural!! >< It makes me mad when women get all obsessed. "OMG, he just glanced in the direction of another woman....he doesn't love me any more!!!" I mean, yes, I would get miffed to if that's ALL my husband did...but still!! A glance at a supermodel?? Hell, I'd do it too and be like, "Dude....that's such an awesome tan." Same goes for women looking at men....hell, if Johnny Depp is on TV, I giggle like a schoolgirl. But does that mean I'd jump in the sack with him if I were married?? No! -_- But that doesn't mean I still wouldn't giggle like a schoolgirl upon seeing him on the TV!

Should I drop my future career as a biologist and take full swing at the counseling dept??

No, probably not. XD

Alright. Enough of the relationship rantyness. I've about had it up to here (here = as far as my hand can stretch above my head) with relationships. @.@

I went home with Lacey this weekend...and discovered the joy of Speakonia. Speakonia, for those of you who haven't heard of it (I hadn't heard of it until this weekend), is a basic computer program where you type in text, and a robotic voice speaks. Well...Lacey and I started typing in our quotes from this weekend, and let me say....I've only laughed this hard a few times in my life. One being during the HP release, when I noticed the misspelling of "fog" as "fug"....another a few weeks ago, when I saw the "Wacky waving inflatable arm-flailing tube men" bit in the Family Guy movie...and this past weekend. Oh God, the sobbing. It hurt. XD

Why am I such a procrastinator?? Grraaaarrr. I need to finish my essay. By "finish" I mean "work on," and by "work on," I mean "start." So yeah. *gets out big pile of psychology books* Hi-ho, Silver, awaaaaaaay!!!

    Lar [2:00 PM]

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